Letting go, moving on

If we didn’t have memories, it would be so much easier to let go, to live in the moment, to move on with life. But memories are there for a reason. They shape the person that we become. Unfortunately, life is a cycle of ups and downs. You can’t have sunshine without a little rain.

Memories make it hard to be satisfied with yourself. They remind you of that time you were happy. They make you look backwards when you’ve been struggling to move forward, filling your mind with what ifs and dreams of something that could have been. You struggle to recreate rather than innovate.

I’m done looking back. I’m done mourning the past and living in discontent. I’ve learned that I’m never going to see the light if I’m hiding in the dark. Even though sometimes the darkness feels safer. There, disappointment is expected, nothing can hurt more than it already does. The light is a much scarier place, but its rewards are so much greater.

Lately, I have been starting to venture out into the light. And sometimes I’ve been burned by it. I’ve still had days that I wanted to spend crying under my covers and days that I just wanted to give up. But I’ve also been happier than I have been in a while. And every time I feel the urge to crawl back into the dark, I remind myself that there are other options.

I have to mention that this hasn’t been a solo journey. I have to thank those that have stuck with me, held my hand, inspired me with their own resilience, helped me to find the light. Thank you.

Why Some Relationships Create Energy for Introverts and Other Relationships are Draining

Introvert, Dear

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This is the last post in a series about introverts (particularly INFJs) and relationships. To read the other articles, click here and scroll down.

We have this idea that an introvert is some bumbling hermit who can’t string together more than a few words. He hates every time an acquaintance unexpectedly says hello, and he’s only truly at peace when he’s alone. If he had it his way, he’d never interact with another human being again.

The truth is, as an Intuitive Feeler (specifically an INFJ), other people are the main way I create meaning in my life. I want to know others and be intimately known by them. I crave deep, intense, authentic connections that border on the metaphysical. My best memories come from connecting with people in energizing ways.

Why do some relationships create energy, while other relationships drain it?

As introverts, we have a limited…

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