2022 was a year of uncomfortable growth. It wasn’t intentional but I felt like I got slapped in the face by something new every month and somehow I learned how to deal with it. Some lessons took longer than intended, but by some miracle… or I guess maybe not a miracle, I’ve landed in 2023 with a clean slate. I’m really proud of where I’ve ended up actually – from an outward perspective, maybe nothing has changed much, but I’ve done some really hard things this year. I’ve learned to set boundaries, to better understand how I feel and to communicate it, to prioritize my physical health, to take on my anxieties head on. I don’t know, maybe this is the post-breakup clarity I’ve been looking for. Or maybe just fasting clarity from the stomach flu.
Either way, i don’t know, i feel prepared to take this year on. I know it won’t be all smooth sailing, but I want to at least live this year with intention, with joy, and with growth.
I wrote this list of little things to strive for right after we broke up the first time and tbh, I think I’ve actually followed through on most of it. Haha maybe 7 took a little longer than it should’ve. But looking back, I’m pretty proud of how far I’ve come since June of 2020.
- being better tomorrow than i was today
- enjoying life as it is today not in preparation for the future
- learning from people that have qualities i admire rather than being jealous of them
- putting positivity into the world even if it’s just a little bit
- nourishing the relationships that are important to me
- valuing myself rather than relying on the validation of others
- refusing to stay trapped somewhere because i’m too scared to move on
- not allowing people around me define the meaning of success
- acknowledging all of what i’m feeling not just constantly pushing away the negative
- not letting fear get in the way of taking risks and being vulnerable
- celebrating myself rather than always focusing on what i’m not good at
I still push for these things every day, but for 2023, I want to be intentional. I don’t want to put things off anymore.
- Start volunteering somewhere. Anywhere. Make a new home for yourself.
- Find a passion just for yourself. Don’t be afraid to go alone.
- Go to the doctor when you need to go to the doctor.
- Prioritize your relationships.
- Figure out where your boundaries are and respect them.
- Be vulnerable. Acknowledge your insecurities.
- Do something that makes you uncomfortable once a month (but helps you grow).
- Don’t wait. And don’t worry about artificial life timelines. Do the things on your bucket list before it’s too late to do them.